To understand the main causes of stress you need to focus on the way we perceive and react to changes.
Since changes are usually associated with threats it is not difficult to see that our fears are closely connected to the level of stress in our life.
Fears are the strongest driving force for the majority of humans and are the MOST BASIC CAUSE OF STRESS.
Some of the most straightforward causes of stress stated by people during surveys are:
Working too much without a rest or sleep can result in overfatigue. An overstrained muscle can be made working a bit more; however our brain can not work without enough sleep.
Stress comes from the inability to cope with our duties, from committed mistakes and the need of reperforming the jobs already done... Stress may also come from the inability to trust your own work because of possible big mistakes, which have not been identified yet.
Keeping your position and salary are closely connected to the fear of death and the fear of not being alone.
However the underlying reason here again is the fear of death if we are talking about issues to our own children (we live through what we create – the loss of a child equals to your own death at a certain extent); and the fear of being alone if it is about issues with an elder family member.
Stress may also come from the inability to be at home for a long period of time resulting in an inability to see close familiy members such as spouse, children, parents ...
For sure the list may be longer but it is pointless to just enumerate score of causes of stress which will be always relating to one and the same source: FEARs caused by the never ending changes in our live.
You can find tons of information in the net about how to deal with numerous causes of stress. Unfortunately the techniques described in 99% of the cases ease only the effects rather than the causes of stress.
Let me give you an example. Let’s say you have had a terrible day at work resulting in an awful headache in the evening. You go back home you google “stress headache” and the beautiful search engine offers you the most popular methods to deal with headache. Most probably they will be something like massage techniques, relaxation, meditation or even some guys may dare recommend you pain killers!!!
Perfect, but dealing with your headache (if you manage of course) is not a long term solution! The headache was just one of the effects your stressful day at work had on you. The main cause was something else, completely untouched by your treatment.
Here I would like to specify that the fear of death is not only the fear of physical death. Anything relating to destruction of a creature of yours would have the same impact on you because through our creations we leave our mark on this planet; through our creations we live for ever. Of course, dealing with the fear of death is a big deal!
Let’s go back to the headache example above and see what the main reason for stress might be in this particular situation. Let’s make some additional assumptions:
You are an employee with an international company (for instance) and you have a number of bosses and numerous tough objectives to meet. Here is the causal relationship of the facts:
So do you think the pain killer or the massage would help you in dealing with your headache in the long run? The answer is: “definitely not!” It is “not” because if headache is the effect stress has on you, it will persist until you limit as much as possible the impacts of the main cause (your fears).
Let’s have a look at another example. No one can argue that driving in a heavy city traffic is extremely stressful. Yes, here maybe it is much easier to feel the real source of the feeling! The fear of physical damage, accident and finally death starts working from the very moment you start the engine.
Other fears we are full of: fear to loose relatives, fear of physical pain, fear of failures, fear of being laughed at, fear of banishment, fear of assets loss, fear of errors and mistakes, fear to be judged, fear of being not good enough, fear of being imperfect ...
The list is too long. The bottom line of all of them is suffering. And we as living creatures give our best to avoid suffering as much as possible.
So if you want to deal with stress first you will have to learn how to deal with your fears.
Few of us realize that one of the major causes of stress is the subsequent behavior of people affected by our own actions.
What goes around comes around! This is the objective Law of Giving and Receiving.
If you hurt a person the only normal reaction that you will get is to be hurt as well. The results: you get pissed off, you have additional work, you may be physically injured… Dealing with the negative attitude towards you involves additional efforts and stress.
An obvious conclusion stems from the above: If we manage to avoid or at least limit as much as possible the negative reactions towards us by managing appropriately our own attitude and behavior, we will succeed to reduce the stress levels in our live.
Simple and easy!
What if you have already hurt many people and you have more obstacles on your way than you can manage? Is it possible to have a fresh start?
Unfortunately in this world there is not a free lunch. The causality relationships will be always valid and you will have to bear the consequences of your previous actions.
The good news for you is that you can always have a fresh start. The Transformation Law grants you chances to change and there are ways to correct your previous mistakes and limit their negative impact on you.
The only thing you need is will for change and persistence...