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Nov 06, 2009
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I can relate to you
by: Vishal

Dear Darren,

I can completely relate to you. There is no straight forward answer to this and only with insight can you expect to be stress free.

Once you have done all that you both can possibly do to conceive, there is nothing much you can do to change destiny. Can you? Fighting with the destiny will create only more stress and unhappiness.

You also have to realize that people with children have stress and so do people who don't have. We crave for what we don't have and we overlook things we have. That's the biggest reason for our unhappiness and stress.

I know this is easier said than done and because I already have a child. But this is the truth and you have to realize it.

Start celebrating already what you have. Do you have any relatives or friends children nearby? Spend time with them. Love them. I'll tell you, there is nothing like loving other's kids. You can love them as much as you want without getting attached and any of the sufferings associated with YOUR children.

Nov 06, 2009
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To Darren
by: Pavel

Hi Darren,
I am afraid you are trying to address a consequence from the real problem. You are trying to eliminate the stress stemming from not having children. However the real problem is the stress which keeps you away from having children.

First of all you have to do all necessary medical tests, of course. This will eliminate any stress coming from the obvious question "Is everything ok from physiological point of view?". If the answer is positive then you have to move on with the next steps.

And next steps should be really radical since the problem you are facing is really serious. I will be straightforward with you. Simply, you have to reassess your priorities.

Both you and your wife have to be 100% sure that you want a child. Having some doubts, any of you, or worries about it may be the psychological reason of keeping the child away from you.

If you are ok with this, then you have to look for other sources of stress. The most frequent one is your job. If it takes too much of your attention and strengths, this may be a good reason. Think about having a long holiday. Go to a mountain area or wherever you like and just rest for a couple of months. If you are reluctant to do it, this is a perfect sign that having a child is not your highest priority in life.

Last but not least you may think about adopting a child. Having your own child is good but at the end of the day life is life irrelevant in which body it is.

I hope this helps...

Regards,
Pavel

Nov 05, 2009
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And what about the stress of having no teens around?
by: Darren

Vishal,
I liked your thoughts about how to approach teens. However, do you have any experience with situations where there are no children in the family?

My wife and me have been trying to have children for more than three years and all attempts were unsuccessful so far. This creates unbelievable amounts of stress, especially for her.

Do you have an advice you can share, how to address this situation?

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